This post is dated 8/13/16 and was taken from my old blog.
We live in an abundant world, in an abundant universe. We have been blessed with abundance. Of life, of earth, of resources, of food…of happiness. However, we live in a society that prides itself on restriction, on self-control. We are told that the strongest are those who withhold. Sometimes, such restraint is necessary. It probably wouldn’t be wise to chop down every tree we wanted, even if market demand was over the charts for paper products. We probably wouldn’t feel good if we ate an entire chocolate cake in one sitting (although under certain circumstances, such as the death of your dog or suddenly being dumped by asshole X, eating an entire cake may be an extremely therapeutic activity).
But I take issue with withholding.
When we were babies, the idea of withholding did not make sense to us, especially the idea of “self-restraint”. When we wanted something, we cried and cried until our mommies and daddies gave it to us. We had no conception of self-control because taking from the abundance of life made us happy, and happiness was our goal. But as we grew, we learned that withholding meant strength, and it would help us get to the top. It would make us the best athlete, the most beautiful, the smartest, the most powerful.
Aspiring is good and well, but aspiring for greatness does not have to be synonymous with restriction. To restrict is to make smaller, to make weaker. Abundance is to have enough, to have more than you need. It is unabashed greatness.
When we restrict, we make ourselves smaller. We don’t always physically shrink, but we leave a hole inside ourselves that constantly wants to be filled. When we withhold, we cannot be completely happy in the present moment. We are living for some distant aspiration that may or may not come to us, while sacrificing our current state of being. And to top it off, withholding from ourselves has taught us to withhold from others.
We need this to stop. We can choose to give ourselves what we want. We DESERVE IT. Make this your new mantra. Stop telling yourself you “don’t deserve it” like a broken record. If you want something, go after it and take it, but don’t strip yourself of your present happiness in the process. Reaching the summit is only worthwhile if you enjoyed the journey.
So relish every breath, stop and smell the flowers, listen to the song of the birds, and put each foot in front of the other with purpose. And when you reach the top of the mountain, you can look down on your life in awe, knowing you already made it when you took the first step. You made it because you were happy, and happiness means success.